What I do know is that there are certain things I can guarantee most women are thinking when we go down on someone. I don't know why we don't talk more about the minutiae of giving head. But there are far more mundane factors at play, and all of them far more important than these racier questions. Generally, conversations about blowjobs center around who can deep throat, how easy/difficult it is to get a penis in your mouth hole, and whether or not you should kiss after completion. Obviously, not so for me, since I'm broaching them right now. It's difficult enough to bring up blowjobs around the water cooler or at a dinner party, so getting into the dirty little details can be tough. But no one ever talks about these little nagging things that have to do with giving head.
While the person being fellated might not be aware, the person on the other end is being bombarded with a lot of blowjob-related mind garbage. Learning how to give a blowjob is a complicated process that can be a source of anxiety, fear, and unexpectedly deep soul searching. Putting a penis in one's mouth is not as simple an endeavor as one might assume it is.
